When you get to college a lot of things change: your living situation, the schedule, money and budget, friendships, classes and class work, locations. Everything is about change. But change isn’t a bad thing. Sometimes we need a little difference in our lives to spice it up.
I used to be one of those people who was uncomfortable with change and who actually really didn’t like it because I liked the way things were and didn’t see a need for things to be different. Many people think the transition from elementary school to middle school is tough. Different, yes, but not bad. The transition from middle school to high school is an even larger jump, what with all of the added freedoms. But the leap from high school to college life is tremendous. You learn to grow up real quick, you learn who your real friends are, and you gain a new system of support you never knew was there. The schooling is one of the largest transitions. All of a sudden you have to be an adult. you’re on your own, a limited budget and homework galore. But do you regret it?
I don’t.
It’s different but that doesn’t mean it’s bad.
I have a job, I have friends and I have family, I’m getting an education and I’m experiencing things I can while I can. And that’s what it’s all about.
As my family has always told me when I was being melodramatic, “Life is full of ups and downs, ride it like a wave. If you crash onto the tide, get back up and try again. You weren’t made to be perfect, no one was. Make mistakes and learn from them. Don’t just learn, Experience.You’ll find yourself when you’re ready, but no one can do that but you. All you can do is live life.”![wave](https://cmclaughlin2014.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/wave.jpg?w=630)
The reason I’m bringing this up is because I was actually asked by a friend not long ago who is afraid of things to come in the future. She’s worried about what to do with her life.
I was too…in such a short time we are forced to start thinking about our future, what are we going to do with the rest of our lives…
My scale for what I wanted to do with a career is all over the place, none of them really aligning in any kind of category that makes sense, that I’m unsure anymore. At one time I wanted to be a veterinarian, then a doctor, then a mechanic, a dancer, a chef, an editor, a translator, a writer, an ambassador…this is currently where the list ends. But even that is in the air as to what I really want to do.
“I CAN’T SEE THE FUTURE! I DON’T HAVE A LOOKING GLASS OR A MAGICAL CRYSTAL BALL THAT TELLS ME WHAT I WANT TO KNOW, SO HOW WOULD I KNOW!?”![crystal ball](https://cmclaughlin2014.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/crystal-ball.jpg?w=630)
…This is what I used to shout all the time when it came to decisions on my schooling and career planning. I never understood why I was forced to grow up when just a year ago I was still playing on a playground swinging on a swing…
Now I understand a little bit. But my biggest piece of advice is the same as what my family once said to me. “You can do and be whatever you want to be. If you put your whole heart and soul into it, and you love what you do then as long as it makes you happy, it’s the right decision. i can’t tell you what you’ll be or who you’ll be, I can just support you. The decision is yours.”
I mean, I’m a freshman in college, I came here thinking I knew exactly what I wanted to do and what I wanted to be…then I started learning more and studying that topic more…and I’m back to square one. I don’t know again…
But that’s just the thing: I don’t have to know. I have a whole life to live, experiment and experience everything and anything I want. Go for it! Shoot for the stars and try and go farther if possible. The world is yours. All cliche but they get the point across.![reach for the stars](https://cmclaughlin2014.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/reach-for-the-stars.jpg?w=630)
Thanks to the tests we’ve done in Leadership, based on my strengths and talents I can follow this advice and really find where I belong in a career, or at least know what to look for as I explore:
Belief: spend time thinking about your calling, find a mentor that can provide information and experience, environments that fit your beliefs are best, research opportunities in helping professions that fit your beliefs or that aid others, environments that are people oriented or give service to others and reward personal growth will help this talent in particular, workpalces that respect your commitment to family and allow for a balance between work and family demands are the best option
Communication: have conversations with people who are currently in careers that interest you, go to career fairs, interview people (such as storytellers) to see how you can put your skills to use, explore opportunities to be a “spokesperson” for an organization, environments that allow for significant social interaction on a daily basis are best, cooperative, interactive, educational and political environments are best options
Empathy: talk to mentors about plans, interview people who have jobs that interest you, environments that provide regular social interaction and an opportunity to collaborate with others are best, emotional tone of work environment is important, seek work where emotions are valued and not repressed, interview teachers, counselors and clergy members and ask them about their talents
Input: collect as much info as you can about careers that interest you, go to the career center and take different career inventories, environments that give you the freedom to pursue threads of info and that focus on informed decision making are likely to bring out your best, might enjoy a job where you are on the cutting edge of knowledge and you can gather and share valuable pieces of relevant information, choose jobs that require you to be an expert collector and consumer of research (this environment will energize you), interview media specialists, librarians, archivists, writers, information technologists and others who work with large amounts of info to get a feel for the jobs
Intellection: read read read!, think about times in your life when you have felt best about your accomplishments and in a journal write about what you did to contribute to those accomplishments, a work environment where you have time and space to think and reflect before responding will bring out your best, select work in which you can share ideas and pose questions (avoid environments where you cannot challenge the status quo or where operating procedures are completely rigid), environments where you can interact with colleagues and have philosophical debates will be most satisfying, choose work that will challenge you intellectually